A Christmas Message to Our Armed Forces and All


Today is Christmas Eve, the day before our savior’s birth. On Christmas Day families come together to share the celebration of Christmas. Many people will not even express the word “Christmas” because they wish to be ‘politically correct’ with happy holidays. To that, I truly say, ‘bah humbug!’

Why do we worry about being politically correct? After all, it IS CHRISTMAS DAY! For many of us, someone will be missing from the Christmas dinner table. Thousands of our Armed Forces are still overseas in war zones, fighting for our freedom while celebrating the holiday with buddies and friendships they have developed while away. As the proud wife of a Vietnam Veteran, I can so relate to how difficult it is to have a loved one in a combat zone at Christmas. War does not take a holiday. On the Christmas during Vietnam, my husband of only four months was in Dong Tam, Vietnam. He shared the day fighting a battle, then having dinner with his weapon nearby — in the event another attack occurred. I shared the holiday with my family. Tears spilling down into my dinner plate because I was so alone. We did not have Skype, or cell phones, to share the holiday and the only way my husband could attempt to phone me was through a Mars station that rarely worked. Christmas for that year was such a depressing day.

For all of our Armed Forces, I hope you and your family will be able to share the holiday, if only via Skype or internet conversations. No, it isn’t the same as sitting at the dinner table sharing a delicious holiday meal, but during this dreadful time, it is the next best thing. Focus on the love you share. The tender moments and words of love expressed via the Internet or cell phones and be thankful that these days will pass. My wish for 2012 is peace. As the wife of a veteran, I certainly do not see an end to war, but I do support what our armed forces are doing overseas and I am proud and thankful that America is supporting your bravery. Each time I see a soldier in a military uniform, I take a moment to shake their hand, or to express a ‘thank you’ to them. No, it isn’t easy being away from your loved ones at Christmas time, and when the loved one returns, sometimes the war is still locked away inside the emotional side of the veteran. For years I have said a part of my husband never returned from Vietnam. His gentle, trusting side is still over there, due to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, the nightmares and horrors only he saw. I cannot relate to what he experienced, but when a nightmare returns, I can hold him and let him know I still love him. I cannot understand what happened, but as his wife, I can certainly reassure him that he is home now, safe and loved.

To the families of those who are still over in war zones in Iraq, Afghanistan and other locations, my wish for you is a Merry Christmas. Focus on your love and try not to feel sad that your loved one is away. Be thankful that America is not a hostile nation now, like it was during Vietnam. Make certain you reassure your loved one that you still love him, or her, and you are still at home — waiting for their return.

Merry Christmas to all of you. Remember the good times. The laughter. The love. Those special moments, and when your loved one returns, why not have a surprising, happy celebration. Perhaps you could decorate with colorful lights, gift wrapped packages, a special dinner, all in celebration that your soldier is returning home. My wish to all is a Merry Christmas and a safe, happy 2012.

Sick and Feeling Just Lousy – When Sniffles and Colds Get You Down


Since last Wednesday I have been sick with the sniffles, an annoying cough and a total lack of energy. I find it incredibly difficult to eat during an illness. What is the point to cook, or eat if you cannot smell and taste the food?

This will be a short blog since most of the time, the Weight Watchers site will not allow me to post, so let’s see what happens this time! It is so annoying to get the comment, “Your post cannot be saved at this time. Please try again later.”

Bah. Hum bug! The Weight Watchers site allows me to comment to others, but posting my blog on their site is a no winner for me.

Perhaps if I felt better I could write more. For now, I’m off to relax, drink more water and watch TV for a bit. I’ll be so happy when I feel “normal again.” Whatever “normal” is! Have a great week!

“Your Blog Cannot Be Posted at This Time — Please Try Again Later — Weight Watchers Strikes Again!


Thursday is always the ‘d’ day — dreaded day! I have Thursday morning blocked off every week for my Weight Watchers meeting. With each meeting I take a silent breath, in hopes there is a weight loss. When I joined in March, 2011, my goal each week was to lost 2 or 3 pounds. Quickly, I discovered that just is not realistic. Since March, I have lost 28.6 pounds. I am thrilled. Yes, I set a goal to lose all the weight in 2011; however, let’s be realistic about this. So for 2012, my resolution is to continue the pursuit to lose my weight. How long will it take to lose 40 more pounds??? I don’t know, but it will happen. I cannot wait to buy a new wardrobe. For now, I am thankful that I am losing. Let us all continue to succeed and to support each other. Have a great Christmas season. Now, let us hope this silly Weight Watchers blog that continues to give me ‘hate’ messages will post, and not tell me to ‘try later!’ Silly blog. I am a writer. I know you are supposed to post this. If I can post comments, why can’t this foolish blog work? Don’t even get me started! It’s late. I’m tired and I want to relax, not fight with the computer! Thursday is always the ‘d’ day — dreaded day! I have Thursday morning blocked off every week for my Weight Watchers meeting. With each meeting I take a silent breath, in hopes there is a weight loss. When I joined in March, 2011, my goal each week was to lost 2 or 3 pounds. Quickly, I discovered that just is not realistic. Since March, I have lost 28.6 pounds. I am thrilled. Yes, I set a goal to lose all the weight in 2011; however, let’s be realistic about this. So for 2012, my resolution is to continue the pursuit to lose my weight. How long will it take to lose 40 more pounds??? I don’t know, but it will happen. I cannot wait to buy a new wardrobe. For now, I am thankful that I am losing. Let us all continue to succeed and to support each other. Have a great Christmas season. Now, let us hope this silly blog that continues to give me ‘hate’ messages will post, and not tell me to ‘try later!’ Silly blog. I am a writer. I know you are supposed to post this. If I can post comments, why can’t this foolish blog work? Don’t even get me started! It’s late. I’m tired and I want to relax, not fight with the computer!  Guess what?? The Weight Watchers blog site did it again…still will not allow me to post. Wants me to try again later!??! Grow up Weight Watchers! Fix your Blogs!!!

Miss Goody-Two-Shoes


While writing today, I came across something that I feel I must write about. As a child and a young adult, I was always addressed as “Little Miss Goody-Two-Shoes.” My mother said it was not a term of endearment and that ‘when kids call you “Little Miss Goody-Two-Shoes” they are ‘putting you down.’

Each time I heard that description, I cringed. Later, as an adult, I heard someone in the workforce describe me as “Little Miss Goody-Two-Shoes,” and a “Pollyanna.”

Here it goes again, I thought, choosing to keep thoughts to myself.

Today, I would like to thank everyone in life who has ever described me in such a way. Little did I know, those descriptions were actually compliments. All of my life I have lived with verbal abuse of my peers, my mother and others. Perhaps surviving the verbal abuse taught me strength, determination, and pride — to stand alone when others criticized me.

Let’s define the terminology of “Little Miss Goody-Two-Shoes.” In the 1700’s, there was a short story published with the title, “Goody Two Shoes.” The term of endearment for me describes someone who strives to be her best, and to do her best…I confess, that description is definitely who I am. Always striving not to say ugly words, and not to gossip or be ugly to others. I have always worked hard to conduct myself as a professional, to be diplomatic and to be kind to others, even those who are ugly to me. Nevertheless, with age, comes wisdom — along with the determination to be equal and to not allow others to mistreat me. Today, I am described as a feminist.  It is true that I have a reputation as an opinionated woman who speaks her mind and most definitely will give my opinion when asked, and many times — when I am NOT asked. I will open doors for men, and the elderly. I say nightly prayers, and I have always worked hard to be a lady. A Southern belle? Not exactly! I am more of the Steel Magnolia — a woman who stands her ground when needed and definitely does not allow a man, or others to push me around. Not anymore! I believe in equality and strive to be all that I can be as a friend, wife, mother and woman.  Thank you all who have ever whispered those descriptions to me, or behind my back. “Little Miss Goody-Two-Shoes,” and “Pollyanna…” Perhaps IF you ever walked in my shoes, you would understand and appreciate that life is too short. We must look for the good, not the bad, and we must learn to smell and appreciate the flowers. Perhaps a cliché? So, are the descriptions.

Yes, I am “Miss Goody-Two-Shoes” and I am proud of who I am today!

Tis the Season for Temptation and Determination


Over the weekend, I spent time with some of my dearest friends, at their annual Christmas party. Of course, since I am on Weight Watchers, it is truly hard to stick to Power Points and count them, especially when away from home. I anticipated I would gain weight; however, all I did was to practice portion control. Instead of filling my plate with food, I got only small portions and ate only a bit. I did not clean my plate. Yes, I went to the desserts table and I did eat two pieces of a chocolate roll. Definitely not on the program, but it is the Christmas season. I am determined NOT to gain weight this season. Will I achieve it? You bet I will! Originally, I planned to lose all of my weight this year. No, I haven’t achieved that. But like someone said in our Thursday morning meeting…”None of us put the weight on overnight, and we cannot expect to lose the weight overnight.” I am losing on the average of one pound a week. Sometimes, I lose .2; or .4, or .6. I’ve learned to tell myself it is ok to lose ever so slowly! The best weight loss I’ve had was 4.2 in two weeks. Yes, it is the holidays. Nevertheless, this year, I am enjoying wearing glitz and glamour again. Just last week, I treated myself to a glitzy belt. Yes, I can wear a belt again! The little things in life, like losing weight at the Christmas holiday season, makes me so proud!